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First Step to Trying Again

Thursday, September 15th, 2011

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, and I have come to realize that I have not been the best helpmeet to mu husband.  He has been going through a difficult season at work — which has caused him to have to spend extra hours at work, and instead of working to make our home a place of refuge where he can relax, I began to resent his job for it.  But I cant take my frustrations out on a position, so he got the brunt of it.

This is not what I was called to do.  I was called to be a help to my husband, not to be a contentious wife that makes him feel like he has to find a housetop corner for retreat (Proverbs 21:9)

As I was writing this post, it occurred to me, why was I writing a blog post about failing to be a good helpmeet when I was fully aware of three things?

  1. Bryan really likes to have breakfast
  2. The entire family woke up late and Bryan was late for work
  3. Bryan went to work hungry

His office is less than 1.5 miles away…Why didn’t I just get up, make him breakfast and take it to him?  So I did precisely that.

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(the grapes were Rachael’s idea)

An egg sandwich isn’t much, but it’s a start.  So, I have now taken my first step to trying again to be the helpmeet God designed me to be.

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The Way to My Man’s Heart….

Tuesday, July 20th, 2010

For the marriage challenge this week was to make our husbands a priority.

One of the suggestions was to make meals that he likes. I actually already do this a lot. In my housekeeping notebook, I have a tab labeled kitchen. There are my menus (I try to plan a month ahead — doesn’t always work) Just in front of the menus is a page that is just a list of different meals. These are our family favorite. Or at least mostly Bryan’s favorites with some of mine. I tried to add Rachael’s but then I discovered that even though she LOVED spaghetti last week, this week she might decide that she hates it.
Anyway, I try to make Bryan’s favorites at least 2 times a week, usually it ends up more often than that.  Yesterday, we had rotisserie chicken with roasted potatoes and carrots. Today is taco pasta, beans, and calabacitas.
Also, I recently made some homemade ice cream, I didn’t know that fell into his favorites, but it did, so homemade ice cream for dessert.
Also, he has a thing for video games, so I think I’m gonna drag out his rock band stuff and try playing with him. Hopefully it’ll go well….last time I tried, I was terrible at it. :)

Marriage Challenge: Captivate Your Husband

Monday, June 14th, 2010

Bryan and I got married May 20th, 2006.  We had been “dating” for about two years.    How we met is actually also closely tied to my salvation testimony.

I was in my freshman year of college.  And I was miserable.  Emotionally, I was not ready to be sent off to college.  So I ended up secluding and isolating myself.  I went to class often enough for my teachers to not write me off as a complete bum, but I was lazy, and I didn’t try.  I spent most of my time sulking on the computer in my dorm.  A friend of mine from high school became very concerned about me.  So he gave me his instant messenger buddy list, figuring that if I wasn’t going to make friends where I was, maybe I could make some friends online.   It was these friends who helped me to realize my sinfulness and my need for a Saviour.

His plan worked, and I began to make friends with people at his university, 150 miles away.  Eventually, I got really tired of my new “friends” being computers.  So I planned a trip to visit my high school friend, and meet everyone else.  While I was there, visiting with my new friends, Bryan came over to their dorm to study chemistry.  We were introduced, but couldn’t care less about each other.

I started going to visit my new friends every weekend.   During this time, Bryan and I also got to know each other.  He found out that I was struggling in my C Programming class, and offered to help me.  So we exchanged instant messenger screen names and started chatting online during the week.   Then came finals week.  In studying for my math final, I realized, I didn’t understand most of the material.  So, I asked one of my new friends for help.  He said he would help me, and I drove up.  But, it turned out he was super busy that weekend, and didn’t have much time to devote to helping me learn math.  But, Bryan again, offered to help.  We studied for a while, and then got bored and went for a walk.  Played on the parked equipment, and walked around the duck pond.  (Ducks are terrifying late at night)  The the sprinklers at the golf course turned on, so we ran though the sprinklers.  And then got back to our friend’s dorm room dripping wet — I’m sure we were appreciated…

We continued dating for another year.  Long distance relationships are hard, but we visited each other basically every weekend.  Many of those weekends were spent walking around and exploring.  After we had been dating a little more than a year, I moved to the same town he was living in.  We got engaged that summer, and married the next year.

Looking back, the thing that got his attention wasn’t my housekeeping skills, really, the only thing he knew about me was I could live out of a backpack in someone’s livingroom.  But that I could have fun doing little things…going to the park, trying not to step on sleeping ducks, and running though the sprinklers, or just sitting by the edge of the pond and watch the people fishing, the ducks, and laughing.  I don’t do that anymore…

He’s been wanting to take our daughter to the bosque.   So, I need to start riding my bike to build up my stamina so we can go.  :)

Oh, and I would post pictures, but we’re not big picture people…so….there are none to share.  :)

Proverbs 5:18-19
Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.

Go into All the World

Wednesday, June 9th, 2010

And He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature.” Mark 16:15

I was thinking about this verse as I hung laundry. It’s a command. But if I am staying home, how do I go? But really, when do we not go? I still have to go shopping. I still see the homeless people on street corner asking for handouts. Everytime I go out, I am being a witness for Christ. When I take my daughter to the park, I can tell the other moms there about Jesus and that He forgives sins. I can buy food for the homeless, and if I have a chance, talk to them as well. I can pass out gospel tracts when I am out and about. So, really, I have already gone into the world. I just have to be intentional about the second half of the command, preach the gospel.

Completing Him Challenge

Tuesday, June 8th, 2010

Yesterday, the Completeing Him Challenge started yesterday at Women Living Well.  Here’s a video on what it’s about:

I’m excited about this.  :)  

My Journey

Tuesday, June 8th, 2010

I am on a journey to become a homemaker that can bless my family and glorify God. I was not raised to be a housewife. Or to even consider being a housewife a legitimate profession. So, my housekeeping skills are…sub-par at best. But I am learning!

So, to learn about homemaking, I searched scripture, and found Titus 2:3-5. “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things– that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”
There I stumbled a little, I don’t have an older woman to teach me these things. Thankfully, I live in an era of the internet, and there is a wealth of women who can help me — even if they don’t know me. And I am very thankful for them.

So, thank you for joining me on my journey to learn to love my husband, love my children, to be discreet, chaste, a homemaker, good, obedient to my own husband.

What I Admire About My Husband

Saturday, June 5th, 2010

I missed a couple of weeks for the marriage link-up.  But I think I have a schedule figured out so i can do this :)
Today, we are talking about what we admire about our husbands.  So, the things that admire about Bryan:

1. He really does care for his family
2. He comes up with really great ideas when I have a question or am stuck on something.
3.  I love his puns and bad jokes.  Life would be so…boring without them
4.  He loves me (I can be really difficult sometimes)
5.  He helps me out, often without my asking for help.
6.  He has a big heart.  He cares for people.

Bryan is a perfect match for me.  I am so thankful that God saw fit to give me such a wonderful man.

My beloved is mine, and I am his.  Song of Solomon 2:16a

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